PCOS Syndrome

Psychological causes of childlessness

An unfulfilled desire to have children also presents itself as a psychological burden for many couples. It may induce strong feelings of insecurity, especially in couples where no apparent organic cause can be identified.

In most cases, childlessness is due to an organic cause. If no physical indication is found, a psychological burden may be at fault. When a person is under excessive mental pressure or stress, it sends a signal to the body indicating that the body is not ready for pregnancy. This can lead individuals to feel responsible for the inability to get pregnant, which can lead to self-doubt in both men and women. Repeated questioning and reflection of one’s role in the unfulfilled desire for children is a normal reaction.

To set this dynamic on the right path, partners should talk to each other about the situation and seek help from their doctor or a psychotherapist. Discussions with experts will encourage you to think positively and focus on the future. If this topic is handled respectively and openly, then fears, negative thoughts, and throwing blame at the other partner begins to fade. Couples who cooperate confidently may also experience an additional quality in their partnership: mutual respect usually enables the further development and intensification of the love in a relationship. As a couple, try to discuss your personal and common attitude towards childlessness on an objective level:

• Why do we want a child?
• How does having a child define our relationship?
• What has changed in our relationship since trying to conceive?
• How do we experience our sexuality?
• Can we imagine a life without children?
  
• How do we feel about sperm donation or egg cell donation?
  
• How do we feel about adoption?

These, along with other similar questions, are a normal component of a medical conversation with your doctor. Our clinic is also in cooperation with two psychotherapists to help you clarify these and other questions.